If you struggle with setting goals, you are not alone! Many people find they have difficulty creating and meeting goals on their own and feel an intense pressure to behave perfectly by a certain date.
I always hear people make commitments that they will start next Monday… will reset at the start of the month…or radically change their routine at the beginning of the year. As someone who is a self proclaimed “Goal Getter” I totally understand the mentality, but wish that more people would take a gentle approach to their goals in order to make them more realistic.
As a high achiever, I always take time to reflect on my achievements and dream up new goals this time of year. I always accomplish the personal goals I set for myself, not because I am Wonder Woman, but because I avoid the pressure of having to have it all figured out. I avoid putting pressure on my goals, and like to make goals that feel achievable but also inspiring. There is no need for perfectionism at this point in the game, coming up with goals should be fun! Working with a therapist can help you achieve your goals in a more aligned way and can foster accountability and build your confidence along the way.
There is no need to radically change your behaviour by a certain date, and I encourage you to read the following tips that may help you stick with your goals long term:
Make specific and achievable resolutions: It's important to set specific, achievable goals for yourself, rather than vague or overly ambitious resolutions. This will make it easier for you to stay motivated and track your progress.
Break your resolutions down into smaller goals: Breaking your resolutions down into smaller, more manageable goals can make them feel more achievable and help you stay motivated.
Keep track of your progress: Keeping track of your progress can help you stay motivated and see how far you've come. You can use a journal, a spreadsheet, or a goal-tracking app to do this.
Find an accountability partner: Having someone to hold you accountable can be a great way to stay on track with your resolutions. This could be a friend, a family member, and will definitely be your therapist!
Celebrate your successes: Don't forget to celebrate your progress and accomplishments along the way. This can help you stay motivated to keep going.
Don't be too hard on yourself: It's important to be kind to yourself and not get discouraged if you slip up or struggle to stay on track. Remember that it's okay to make mistakes, and it's important to be patient and persistent in working towards your goals. Make this the year where you accomplish the goals you set for yourself! If you'd like some help getting there, please get in touch with us! We would be more than happy to help you every step of the way.